"LOL I know its not advised but we swat her with newspapers, flyswats, etc. when she is behaving so badly and refuses to stop"
Listen. There are many very specific reasons why striking your dog is not recommended. Smacking her teaches her that you are dangerous, unpredictable, and not to be trusted. Please stop hitting her.
Set your dogs up for success by managing the situation. Do not allow any episodes of possessiveness. Do not let any of your dogs have valuable chewy toys when other dogs are around. Crate them or separate then so that they can enjoy their food and chewies in peace without threat.
Your female needs a structured, positive leadership program such as NILIF (Nothing in Life is Free). This is not a punishing program for her - rather, it will show her who controls the Good Stuff (you) and that in order to get what she wants, she must do what you want.
http://k9deb.com/nilif
Please start this program with her today. There is a lot of information on that page that will show you how to work with her positively. Again, you are suppressing her behaviors by punishing, but you are not teaching her a thing. You will certainly earn yourself a bad bite if this continues. Good luck -
"Your dog is a reflection of your abilities as a trainer." - Susan Garrett